Honest with yourself

Not all of Buddha’s teachings are of the warm, fuzzy feel-good variety.

Some of them are hard for us to hear and accept, but these teachings are often

the ones that we really need to take to heart because they will really help us

on our spiritual path if we honestly put them into practice.

One of these difficult teachings is about recognizing our faults in the mirror of Dharma.

No one wants to examine their faults. They are painful to look at

and admit we have them. Intellectually, we all know we are not perfect;

after all, that is part of what makes us human and not fully enlightened Buddhas – at least, not yet.

But ignoring and pretending we don’t have the faults that we do,

whatever they are, only causes us more problems.

One thing to remember is that having faults (and we all do) does not make you

an inherently faulty or bad person. We all have Buddha nature

that is covered with delusions; these delusions, in turn, cause us to have faults.

While we may understand that cherishing others benefits not only the recipient,

but us as well, we still don’t practice it all the time with everyone we meet.

Why don’t we do this if we know that is beneficial for all involved to do so?

Because we are too busy cherishing ourself, of thinking we are more important

than others, or at least our time is more important.

We have made a habit of this self-cherishing mind.

The good news is, just like with any other bad habit, the habit of self-cherishing

can be broken with effort and practice.

Just as we tend to ignore our faults, we likewise tend to exaggerate

our good qualities and take pride in them. As a result of this deluded pride,

we develop an inflated view of ourself, and consider ourself

superior to others in some way. It could be in our appearance,

intellectual ability, physical ability, talents, knowledge, or experience.

Our pride makes it hard for us to accept our mistakes, admit to being wrong

about our views, or accept any criticism of ourself at all.

We may even deflect the criticism by placing the blame on others

(i.e., my parents raised me to be this way; it’s their fault!).

We become defensive and may even retaliate in anger. This leads to further conflicts,

pain, and suffering for all involved, and the negative actions create negative karma

for ourselves that will ripen later, creating even more suffering in the future.

Clearly, we need to do something to stop this cycle.

We don’t want to think about our thoughts because doing so

is uncomfortable and disturbing to us. But if we do not recognize our faults,

we can’t do anything to diminish and eventually remove them from our mind.

If examining our faults just gets too painful, there is another practice we can do

to help diminish our pride and increase our compassion:

we can focus on the good qualities of others, and cease searching

for and exaggerating their faults. We will naturally come to cherish them as a result,

which will make both them and us happier and more peaceful.

This is also an excellent way to generate merit (good karma).


~ by pinoro on August 5, 2013.

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